Hadith stating that your Believing women when seek permission to go to Masjid, do not forbid or hold them:
1.sahih bukhari vol 1. book 12. Number 832: Narrated Salim bin 'Abdullah:
My father said, "The Prophet said, 'If the wife of any one of you asks permission (to go to the mosque) do not forbid her.
2.Number 829: Narrated Um Salama:
Whenever Allah's Apostle completed the prayer with Taslim, the women used to get up immediately and Allah's Apostle would remain at his place for someone before getting up. (The sub-narrator (Az-Zuhri) said, "We think, and Allah knows better, that he did so, so that the women might leave before men could get in touch with them)
3.Number 827: Narrated 'Abdullah bin Abi Qatada Al-Ansari:
My father said, "Allah's Apostle said, "Whenever I stand for prayer, I want to prolong it but on hearing the cries of a child, I would shorten it as I dislike to put its mother in trouble
and number 824, 825, 826 etc
Number 822: Narrated 'Abdur Rahman bin 'Abis:
A person asked Ibn Abbas,"Have you ever presented yourself at the ('Id) prayer with Allah's Apostle?" He replied, "Yes." And had it not been for my kinship (position) with the Prophet it would not have been possible for me to do so (for he was too young). The Prophet went to the mark near the house of Kathir bin As-Salt and delivered a sermon. He then went towards the women. He advised and reminded them and asked them to give alms. So the woman would bring her hand near her neck and take off her necklace and put it in the garment of Bilal. Then the Prophet and Bilal came to the house
sahih bukhari volume 1 Book 8, Number 347: Narrated Um 'Atiya:
We were ordered to bring out our menstruating women and veiled women in the religious gatherings and invocation of Muslims on the two 'Id festivals. These menstruating women were to keep away from their Musalla. A woman asked, "O Allah's Apostle ' What about one who does not have a veil?" He said, "Let her share the veil of her companion
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Monday, April 18, 2011
Being Good to Parents and Parents In Law
What can we do, to our parents? What can we do for them? What can we do to make them happy? If your parents are alive, first and foremost thank Allah `azza wa jel for this opportunity. Thank Him; rejoice that there is still chance and hope! THANK Allah that Allah has blessed you to be an adult while your parents are still alive. Do for them everything that is humanly possible.
Financially Many of us think that financially, our wives or children take precedent - no! Islamically speaking, first on the list is: your mother and t father and second are your wife/wives and kids. We have a responsibility to take care of ALL of them - it is our obligation as men, we have to take care of a lot of people, but number one on that list is mother and father - and that is why, when a man came to the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam complaining, "Oh ya rasool lillah, my father takes this, my father takes that," complaining that his father would take some things of his possession. After ALL that the father has done for this son, after ALL the money and time and effort and sweat, this man came and complained that he took bits and pieces - he took trinkets from his wealth? And he's complaining, "My father takes money without asking me?"
Do you know the response of the Rasool salla Allahu alayhi wasallam?
"Anta wa maaluka li abeek." "You and your wealth - all of it - belongs to your father."
You're now getting angry that he's taken a hundred dollars? A thousand dollars? After ALL that he's done? ALL that you own belongs to your father - you and ALL of your possessions. "Anta wa maaluka li abeek." Who are you now to come and complain that he takes a little bit from you?
And from this, scholars of fiqh have derived many, many rulings:
that the father owns the property of the son, some of the fuqahaa' said.
And others disagreed with this. The point being, from this, they took many rulings of fiqh.
If they're alive, financially, number one - it is not possible for you to eat a full meal, and your parents don't have that. Take care of them, in any way possible.
Spiritually. Make du'aa for them.
Do what you can to show your love to them. If they're with you, alhamdulillah. If they're in another country, make sure they are taken care of. Calling them up - simple phone call – and I do that very often, do not underestimate the joythat you will bring your mother by calling her up on the phone. Do not underestimate that. The love that she will feel, talking to her regularly. Do not underestimate the power of a conversation, and being in touch.
Make sure that you do anything -
Every one of us comes from a culture and civilization - there are things that we do in that culture, to show respect to them - do those things. It is a part of your religion - it is a part of your duty to Allah, that you do this.
But if it so happens that they are no longer with you - if Allah `azza wa jel has willed that they have moved on to the next life - then still, there are things that can be done.
First and foremost: du'aa. Du'aa for them. Du'aa that Allah forgives them, raises their ranks, blesses them. The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam told us, that of the best thing we can do when somebody dies is to make du'aa for them - when the parent dies, we make du'aa for them. Allah commands us in the Qur'an: make du'aa for them. The Prophet Nooh made du'aa for his parents. The Prophet Ibrahim made du'aa for his parents. All of this is in the Qur'an. Continual du'aa.
One of the sahabah, when his father died, he said: for one year, I could not think of anything to make du'aa, except for my father. ONE YEAR, every time I raised my hand, all I could do was make du'aa for him. This is a part of being a good son. Make du'aa for them.
Another thing you can do: give charity on their behalf.
Give money- and as do you say, "Oh Allah, may the reward of this go to my mother and father."
Go for Hajj and Umrah– and as you do say, "May the reward of this go to my mother and father."
Sacrifice an `udhiya – and as you do say, "May the reward of this go to my mother and father."
You do what you can, financially, and you expect the reward to go to your parents, and not to yourself.
Also, you can visit their relatives, and visit their friends that they used to visit when they were alive. Visit their circle of friends, that they used to visit. And you do what you can, to bring about their memory, in that sense.
Because when you go to their gatherings - your parent's relatives, your parent's friends - what will happen? The topic of conversation will always be your mother and father. And when that brings about, you will remember them with good, and you will pray for them.
So this, too, is part of being a dutiful son.
Basically, brothers and sisters, do what you can before it is too late. Do what you can, ALL that you can do, and there is no good deed after the worship of Allah that is more beloved than being good to the parent.
In the authentic hadith of the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam when a man came to him, wanting to do good, the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam asked, "Is your mother alive?" He said: "Yes." The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said: go to her, and stick to her feet (an Arabic expression, meaning: submit yourself to her), because at her feet is jannah." Jannah is around her feet. That's what the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said.
Permit to bring this khutbah to closure with one hadith of the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam. Where, he was climbing up the minbar, and when he got up to the last minbar [step?], he said, "Ameen." And, when he said Ameen, the sahaba asked him, "why are you saying Ameen?" He said:
Jibreel came to me and said, "Make du'aa that any man who finds his parents alive at an old age, and still does not manage to get his sins forgiven, make du'aa that he is never forgiven."
Meaning, there is no hope for the man who reaches old age with his parents, and yet does not gain the forgiveness of Allah. If you can't be a good son, you cannot be a good Muslim. It's that simple.
Allahum inee daa'in fa amminno. [du'aa]
Rabbana aatina fid dunya hasanatan wafil aakhirati hasanatan waqeena athaaban naar!
O My Lord, give us good in this world, and good in the life to come, and keep us safe from the torment of the fire.Rabbana la tuzigh quloobanaa ba'da ith haday tanaa, wahablanaa milla dunka rahma. Innaka antal wah-haab.O My Lord, do not let our hearts deviate from the Truth now that we have been guided, but grant us Mercy from Your very Presence; for You are the grantor of bounties without measure.Rabbi ja'alnee muqeemus salaati wamn thur-riy-yatee Rabbana wata qab-bal du'ah. ......O My Lord, make me one who offers prayers perfectly, and also my offspring. Our Lord and accept this prayer!Rabbigh firlee wali waalidayya, walil mu'mineena yawma yaqoomul hisaab...... .O My Lord, forgive me and my parents, and all believers on the day of Judgement.Subhaanaka Rabbika Rabbil izzati 'ammaa yasifoon, wasalaamun alal Mursalaleen, wal hamdu lillaahi Rabbil `aalameen! Glory be to the Lord, the Lord of Majesty and Honour! He is free from what they ascribe to Him! And Peace on the Messengers! And Praise to Allah, the Lord and Cherisher of the Worlds!
Financially Many of us think that financially, our wives or children take precedent - no! Islamically speaking, first on the list is: your mother and t father and second are your wife/wives and kids. We have a responsibility to take care of ALL of them - it is our obligation as men, we have to take care of a lot of people, but number one on that list is mother and father - and that is why, when a man came to the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam complaining, "Oh ya rasool lillah, my father takes this, my father takes that," complaining that his father would take some things of his possession. After ALL that the father has done for this son, after ALL the money and time and effort and sweat, this man came and complained that he took bits and pieces - he took trinkets from his wealth? And he's complaining, "My father takes money without asking me?"
Do you know the response of the Rasool salla Allahu alayhi wasallam?
"Anta wa maaluka li abeek." "You and your wealth - all of it - belongs to your father."
You're now getting angry that he's taken a hundred dollars? A thousand dollars? After ALL that he's done? ALL that you own belongs to your father - you and ALL of your possessions. "Anta wa maaluka li abeek." Who are you now to come and complain that he takes a little bit from you?
And from this, scholars of fiqh have derived many, many rulings:
that the father owns the property of the son, some of the fuqahaa' said.
And others disagreed with this. The point being, from this, they took many rulings of fiqh.
If they're alive, financially, number one - it is not possible for you to eat a full meal, and your parents don't have that. Take care of them, in any way possible.
Spiritually. Make du'aa for them.
Do what you can to show your love to them. If they're with you, alhamdulillah. If they're in another country, make sure they are taken care of. Calling them up - simple phone call – and I do that very often, do not underestimate the joythat you will bring your mother by calling her up on the phone. Do not underestimate that. The love that she will feel, talking to her regularly. Do not underestimate the power of a conversation, and being in touch.
Make sure that you do anything -
Every one of us comes from a culture and civilization - there are things that we do in that culture, to show respect to them - do those things. It is a part of your religion - it is a part of your duty to Allah, that you do this.
But if it so happens that they are no longer with you - if Allah `azza wa jel has willed that they have moved on to the next life - then still, there are things that can be done.
First and foremost: du'aa. Du'aa for them. Du'aa that Allah forgives them, raises their ranks, blesses them. The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam told us, that of the best thing we can do when somebody dies is to make du'aa for them - when the parent dies, we make du'aa for them. Allah commands us in the Qur'an: make du'aa for them. The Prophet Nooh made du'aa for his parents. The Prophet Ibrahim made du'aa for his parents. All of this is in the Qur'an. Continual du'aa.
One of the sahabah, when his father died, he said: for one year, I could not think of anything to make du'aa, except for my father. ONE YEAR, every time I raised my hand, all I could do was make du'aa for him. This is a part of being a good son. Make du'aa for them.
Another thing you can do: give charity on their behalf.
Give money- and as do you say, "Oh Allah, may the reward of this go to my mother and father."
Go for Hajj and Umrah– and as you do say, "May the reward of this go to my mother and father."
Sacrifice an `udhiya – and as you do say, "May the reward of this go to my mother and father."
You do what you can, financially, and you expect the reward to go to your parents, and not to yourself.
Also, you can visit their relatives, and visit their friends that they used to visit when they were alive. Visit their circle of friends, that they used to visit. And you do what you can, to bring about their memory, in that sense.
Because when you go to their gatherings - your parent's relatives, your parent's friends - what will happen? The topic of conversation will always be your mother and father. And when that brings about, you will remember them with good, and you will pray for them.
So this, too, is part of being a dutiful son.
Basically, brothers and sisters, do what you can before it is too late. Do what you can, ALL that you can do, and there is no good deed after the worship of Allah that is more beloved than being good to the parent.
In the authentic hadith of the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam when a man came to him, wanting to do good, the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam asked, "Is your mother alive?" He said: "Yes." The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said: go to her, and stick to her feet (an Arabic expression, meaning: submit yourself to her), because at her feet is jannah." Jannah is around her feet. That's what the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said.
Permit to bring this khutbah to closure with one hadith of the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasallam. Where, he was climbing up the minbar, and when he got up to the last minbar [step?], he said, "Ameen." And, when he said Ameen, the sahaba asked him, "why are you saying Ameen?" He said:
Jibreel came to me and said, "Make du'aa that any man who finds his parents alive at an old age, and still does not manage to get his sins forgiven, make du'aa that he is never forgiven."
Meaning, there is no hope for the man who reaches old age with his parents, and yet does not gain the forgiveness of Allah. If you can't be a good son, you cannot be a good Muslim. It's that simple.
Allahum inee daa'in fa amminno. [du'aa]
Rabbana aatina fid dunya hasanatan wafil aakhirati hasanatan waqeena athaaban naar!
O My Lord, give us good in this world, and good in the life to come, and keep us safe from the torment of the fire.Rabbana la tuzigh quloobanaa ba'da ith haday tanaa, wahablanaa milla dunka rahma. Innaka antal wah-haab.O My Lord, do not let our hearts deviate from the Truth now that we have been guided, but grant us Mercy from Your very Presence; for You are the grantor of bounties without measure.Rabbi ja'alnee muqeemus salaati wamn thur-riy-yatee Rabbana wata qab-bal du'ah. ......O My Lord, make me one who offers prayers perfectly, and also my offspring. Our Lord and accept this prayer!Rabbigh firlee wali waalidayya, walil mu'mineena yawma yaqoomul hisaab...... .O My Lord, forgive me and my parents, and all believers on the day of Judgement.Subhaanaka Rabbika Rabbil izzati 'ammaa yasifoon, wasalaamun alal Mursalaleen, wal hamdu lillaahi Rabbil `aalameen! Glory be to the Lord, the Lord of Majesty and Honour! He is free from what they ascribe to Him! And Peace on the Messengers! And Praise to Allah, the Lord and Cherisher of the Worlds!
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